We also have significant condensation in our house. The north facing second story during the winter and spring were the worst for us, too. Even though I made it a fairly regular routine to wipe up the condensation on the windows in the morning, we still had water/mildew/mold damage to the north window frame and sills.
I think Marissa is right about the window materials. In our previous 1950's era house, most of the house had wooden windows. In a room that was added later, aluminum windows were used on two sides of the house that also had wooden windows. During the winter, especially when the outside temperature dropped suddenly, lots of condensation would form on the aluminum window parts (which would then drip onto the wooden sill). Even though the whole house was at roughly the same humidity, we had very different results with different windows. It was quite rare for condensation to appear on the wooden windows, although it did happen from time to time.
Why? Aluminum conducts heat/cold very well. When it gets cold outside, the entire aluminum part gets cold, even the part inside your house. Some of this coolness transfers to your inside air in the immediate vicinity of the aluminum parts, cooling the air below the dew point (the temperature at which the water vapor in the air will condense). The more water vapor in your air, the higher the dew point and the more commonly you'll get condensation on even only mildly cool days.
One drawback of wooden windows is that they are very drafty. I don't think they would meet the Green Builder standards. Besides, just choosing different windows doesn't solve the the bigger problem. The water vapor is still in the house and can still lead to mold growth in walls, etc. As you move past 50 or 60% RH your risk for mold problems goes up quickly; the dew point is quite close to reasonable room temperatures. The only solution for this bigger problem is to reduce the moisture in the house. Per the link below, "It has been estimated that the typical family of four converts three gallons of water into water vapor per day. It takes only four to six pints of water to raise the relative humidity of a 1,000 sq. ft. house from 15 to 60 percent. "
It took some behavior changes on our part to get moisture under control in our house. We now use exhaust fans more aggressively (40 mins for shower, squeegee the shower walls after showering, always when using the cooktop), avoid leaving dishes soaking in water in the sink for extended intervals, cover pans of water while bringing them to a boil, close toilet lids, etc. We also bought a dehumidifier that we use to help from time to time, but be forewarned that dehumidifiers use power like crazy.
Lots of info:
http://www.fcs.uga.edu/pubs/current/B924.htmlA handy chart of what generates how much moisture in your home on the last page:
http://extension.oregonstate.edu/catalog/pdf/ec/ec1437.pdf